Are you trying to be like others ?
Instead of questioning yourself have you ever tried questioning the way the society is towards you?
Are you trying to please everyone around to be accepted?
Do you hide your preferences due to the society?
Are you worried about “what will people say” when you make your choices?
If you answer “YES” to any of the above questions, it is okay, I do not judge you. You should also stop judging yourself.
Understand this ⬇️
“If You strive to please others, to fit in, and feel accepted. Despite that, you still do not feel accepted, and not because others do not accept you, but because you haven’t accepted yourself as you are.”
Also please understand the difference between changing for growth and changing for the society …
Change for Growth vs Change to “FIT IN”: The human mind can be our greatest ally or our most troublesome enemy if we don’t fully understand it or know how we can manage it. Hence, when you change for your own development even your mind gets engineered accordingly and you grow as a person. Growth is a fundamental truth of life.
For Example: When you lose weight for your own health its growth. However, when you try to become skinny just cause everyone in your group feels you are fat is changing for the wrong reasons.
Another Example: You change your dressing sense to something you feel is more “YOU” or that you feel happy and comfortable in is GROWTH. However, you trying to change your wardrobe just because the people around you feel you should, then you are changing for the wrong reasons.
Things to keep in mind before you change:
- If you do not like something about yourself there is no harm in changing it, however if you must change you must change for the right reasons.
- Do not change to be accepted by everyone, change if it makes you happy.
- Change if it’s for your own betterment.
- If it does not make you happy, then it is not worth doing.
- You cannot please everyone all the time, nor should you seek to.
“You were not born on earth to please anyone; you have to live life to express yourself, not to impress someone. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not, and never lose yourself in search of other people’s acceptance and approval.” ― Roy T. bennett