I know that life can be overwhelming at times, and we might use our react to it in a certain way. However, we must understand the emotion behind every reaction that comes from you. Instead of giving an excuse “this is the way I am”, invest time in understanding yourself. You can be your biggest friend or biggest enemy depending on how you carve yourself.
We must accept and manage feelings, we all deal with our feelings differently, but a start would be to recognise the feeling you have and how to control and manage it. This would require some deal of self-control and how to re direct emotion, think about what is happening and how you will react.
Thinking about the emotion as it happens will help you to express your emotion positively to the people around you.
The 6 emotional reactions we have
- Happiness & Sadness – We all are capable to demonstrate happiness and sadness without an effort. When you are happy let people know it, cherish the moment and enjoy it. Share your thoughts, feelings and incidents that made you happy. Similarly when you are sad it is good to deal with it the way you deal happiness. Confide to your loved ones, don’t keep it within. Share how you feel and don’t judge your EMOTIONS
- Fear & Surprise – When we have a fear of financial failure or hate the surprise of things not going our way, “as an example”, try and reduce the risk of that happening or the way to deal with it when it happens, almost like risk management, reduce the risk by having a plan when it happens.
- Anger & Disgust – Both anger and disgust needs a bit of management, when we are angry or disgusted need to make sure we think about the people around us before reacting. We could end up hurting them while reacting too quickly, think about it before reacting.
Listen to your emotions and reactions and use them wisely.
- ANGER shows you what you’re passionate about, where your boundaries are, and what you believe needs to change about the world.
- DISAPPOINTMENT shows you that you tried for something, that you did not give in to apathy, that you still care.
- GUILT helps you understand the person that you do not want to be. It gives you the opportunity to forgive yourself in order to move on.
- SHAME shows you that you’re internalizing other people’s beliefs about who you should be (or who you are) and that you need to reconnect with yourself.
- SADNESS shows you the depth of your feeling, the depth of your care for others and this world.
- BITTERNESS shows you where you need to heal, where you’re still holding judgments on others and yourself.
- RESENTMENT shows you that you’re living in the past and not allowing the present to be as it is.
- DISCOMFORT shows you that you need to pay attention right now to what is happening because you’re being given the opportunity to change, to do something different than how you typically do it.