How to Recognise Your Mistake and Turn it Into A Valuable Life Lesson?

A Valuable Life Lesson

Have you ever found yourself in similar situations, and you end up asking yourself ; “How can this happen to me AGAIN!!”

Or

You end up in a relationship, and say “I never want to be in a relationship with this kind of person” only to find yourself doing the exact same thing later?

It’s like the mistakes are different but it’s a vicious circle of mistakes that you go Mary-go-round on. Almost like you have a pattern and feel there is something wrong with you.

If so, you’re not alone. It’s likely all of us have repeated some of our mistakes at one time or another.

The good news is, you can take steps to “Recognise” your mistakes/pattern. Then, instead of repeating them again, you can learn from them and gain valuable wisdom that will help you in the future.

Here are five ways to learn from your mistakes:

Mistakes

1. Self reflection and Ask Yourself right Questions

While you don’t want to dwell on your mistakes, reflecting on them can be productive. Ask yourself a few tough questions:

• What did I do wrong?

• What went wrong?

• What could I do better next time?

• What did I learn from this?

Write down your responses and you’ll see the situation a little more clearly. Seeing your answers on paper can help you think more logically about an irrational or emotional experience.

2. Acknowledge Your Errors

So often, people say things like, “I’m sorry you felt that way,” or “It’s unfortunate it didn’t work out.” But blaming other people or minimizing your responsibility isn’t helpful to anyone.

Before you can learn from your mistakes, you have to accept full responsibility for your role in the outcome. That can be uncomfortable sometimes, but until you can say, “I messed up,” you aren’t ready to change.

3. Make A Plan

Beating yourself up for your mistakes won’t help you down the road. It’s important to spend the bulk of your time thinking about how to do better in the future.

Make a plan that will help you avoid making a similar mistake. Be as detailed as possible but remain flexible since your plan may need to change.

Whether you find an accountability partner or you track your progress on a calendar, find a way to hold yourself accountable. Keep in mind that what works for one person might not work with someone else.

4. Make It Harder To Mess Up

Don’t depend on willpower alone to prevent you from taking an unhealthy shortcut or from giving into immediate gratification. Increase your chances of success by making it harder to mess up again.

According to a psychotherapist, people find some creative ways to become more disciplined. The psychotherapist provided a real life example, once woman who blew her budget every month because she shopped online late whenever she was bored or sad.

To prevent herself from having instant access to her cards, she froze her credit cards in a big block of ice. She’d have to wait for the ice to melt to get the number. Whenever she found herself trying to thaw the block of ice, she would pause and realize how ridiculous the situation was and she’d stop short of spending money she didn’t have.

How to Recognise Your Mistake

5. Create A List Of Reasons Why You Don’t Want To Make The Mistake Again

Sometimes, it only takes one weak moment to indulge in something you shouldn’t. Creating a list of all the reasons why you should stay on track could help you stay self-disciplined, even during the toughest times.

I once worked with a woman who wanted to stop talking to her ex-boyfriend. She knew he wasn’t good for her but she couldn’t’ resist answering the phone whenever he called.

She created a list of all the reasons why she shouldn’t talk to him—it was bad for her mental health, they were toxic together, etc. She laminated the list and taped it to the back cover of her phone. Whenever he called, she’d turn her phone over and begin to read over the list. It helped her resist the temptation to answer the phone.

Self-discipline is like a muscle. Each time you delay gratification and make a healthy choice, you grow mentally stronger.

Sometimes, mistakes aren’t just one big blunder. Instead, they’re a series of little choices that lead to failure. So pay attention to your errors, no matter how big or how small they might seem. And recognize that each mistake can be an opportunity to build mental muscle and become better.

-Apurva

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