For my readers who is reading from outside India and isn’t familiar with Indian culture, let me tell you will live with our parents. It’s unusual for us to leave them and live by ourselves at a young age. Now let me share my life with you all.
I left my house (for higher studies) when I was 17 and I did that in anger. I was an impulsive, stubborn and angry teenager. I was inquisitive and wanted to reform everything that didn’t make sense to me. So, the cost of choosing a life, I wanted to live on my own term required me to pay a price in return. As a price I left my house to build a life on my own, with no support and zero money. I know that may sound foolish to a few but that was the boldest decision of my life. At the age of 17, I moved to a big city with zero money to build a life on my own.
In interim I learned a new side of this world, which was scary. I saw mean, hurtful and selfish side. I started working alongside my higher education. I realised it’s not easy for a girl to live on her own terms. I learnt all the survival tactics that I could, just to ensure my safety.
I am sure many of must be thinking that WHY DIDN’T I GO BACK???
For the following two reasons
A. I wanted to make my life on my own terms and without trying how I will know what I can achieve. B. Going back was never an option. I always believe everything happens for a reason.
Now after a decade, when I look back, I am so glad I had the courage to take that decision. I can’t even imagine my life otherwise. However, it’s never been as easy ride. There have been gloomy days for me and let me share what worked for me. My secret mantra
Give it a shot
I have seen this so many times when people say I can’t do it without even trying. WHY? What is the worst that can happen? Are you afraid of trying or AFRAID OF FAILING? Until and unless you won’t try you will never know. Moreover No One Knows It All. This life doesn’t come with a manual. Imagine if we wouldn’t have tried to walk when we were young, we would have never learned how to walk. So next time before you say a big fat NO to something new, try saying yes. Expand your horizons. There is no age to learning. You can learn at any age. My grandfather(nana) learned to use smart phone at the age of 70 and he texts us every day. So Give it s shot, you may hit s jackpot.
Don’t give up
Remember, it always seems impossible until it done. There comes a time in our life when we just do not want to try any more. We just think maybe we are not made for it. We make peace with failure. However, failure is not opposite of success it s part of success. Whenever you feel like giving up? Always remember why you started. That fire in your belly that makes you keep going. What if the victory is just around the corner? I remember, there was a time I used to think, I am not cut out for this world and its cunning ways. Thank fully I never gave up. And today I am proud of my journey.
A famous psychologist did an experiment on animals. He learnt that animals learned quickly when rewarded for good behavior rather than being punished for bad behavior. Later research proved that the same applies to humans as well. Criticism is dangerous. It’s crushes our confidence. Think about how much pride and confidence you bruise when you criticize yourself. You should rather appreciate yourself for the good things you do. Be kind to yourself. No one is perfect.
Imagination has power
We live in constant fear, fear of losing, fear to failure, fear of being judged and the list goes on. Instead image your victory, imagine that promotion, that big event you have been waiting for. Imagination has miraculous power. It not only gives us hope, it’s like training your mind. One can train our mind out of fear. In fact, that you can achieve anything to your train your mind to imagine that you have done it. Imagine every detail of your goal and how you have achieved it.
Take my word and LIVE your life. Don’t just survive. This life will be as beautiful as you want it to be. All you need is the love your life the way you want to be loved. Take chances in life you never know which path will take you to your destination.
“We try so hard to hide everything we’re really feeling from those who probably need to know our true feelings the most. People try to bottle up their emotions, as if it’s somehow wrong to have natural reactions to life.”― Colleen Hoover