Last week a friend of mine called, he wanted to pass his condolences for my father’s demise. He said that “Death is a universal truth of lif you need to accept this”. Nothing is permanent in life. While all of this is true, there is one more truth that a lot of people don’t realise. Time is the biggest healer.
I read it somewhere that a grief should not be for long. We need to move on from what happened as it cannot be changed. We need to accept it for our own mental and physical wellbeing. While all this is true, in my experience you might not even know that you are still in grief.
Let’s understand what is PTSD (Post-traumatic stress disorder) :
It’s the feeling after a recent traumatic experience. Each person’s may deal and feel it differently. The situations we find traumatic can vary from person to person. There are many different harmful or life-threatening events that might cause someone to develop PTSD.
Being involved in a car crash, Being violently attacked, Being raped or sexually assaulted
Seeing other people hurt or killed, including in the course of your job, Being abused, harassed or bullied
Being kidnapped or held hostage and many more
Syptoms that you are still in PTSD :
- Flashbacks – You still get flashbacks of the event and the time you spent.
- Nightmares – You get nightmares related or unrelated to the past experience.
- Sleeping disorder – You are either facing issues in sleeping or is sleeping more than earlier.
- Avoiding feelings or memories – You feel like you have to keep yourself busy and loaded with work.
- Trust factors – Lately you find it difficult to trust people.
- Weakness – You feel weak physically.
- Eating habits – You are eating too much or you have lost your appitite.
These are just a few. It is possible that you may feel deeply depressed and experiencing huge amounts of anxiety. You may refuse to go anywhere alone.
“I thought I was coping quite well to start with. Until recently I realised I am loading myself with work and new ventures. I was trying to avoid how I feel.”
Positive ways to cope up with PTSD:
- Learn about trauma and PTSD.
- Practice RELAXATION techniques.
- TALK to a friend or family about your feelings.
- Pursue OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES.
- Enjoy the PEACE of nature.
- Spend time with POSITIVE people.
- Take Therapy.
- Start MEDIATION.
- Accept the past EVENT.
“Grieving doesn’t make you imperfect. It makes you human.”— Sarah Dessen