What is confidence?
Confidence is believing YOU are worthwhile, capable of doing anything you want, valuable and SPECIAL. Before anyone else tells you can do it, you should know you can do it.
Are you confident about everything you do?
No, its not possible to be confident in everything we do. Afterall we are all humans. Even Mark Zuckerberg once has his doubts before Facebook went live. The point is we all have our weak moments, but we need to dust that up and do the PEP TALK with ourselves. Remember for the world to believe, you need to believe in yourself.
By now I m sure this fact is established that I have reached where I am right now, in this transformation, after years of struggle and work I did on myself. In the interim, I learned to accept what is not right and how can I work on it. I was a shy kid and with, so my physical aspects involved I felt outcast. Hence, I grew up with ZERO friends. One day after school, I was walking back home. That walk time was my self-talk time, I used to figure out what is it that I should do to change if I am not happy with who I am. Today, I feel I was wise. That self-talk worked wonders. I also understood the importance of knowing WHY of a problem and then taking steps to work on it.
What do you do to overcome lack of confidence?
I once read every artist, public speaker or ever our world’s greatest achiever gets nervous before their big day. They all give themselves that Pep talk. Every time you feel less confident (about a situation or that bid day or big event) talk to yourself. Make yourself believe that YOU CAN DO IT. Nothing is impossible, even impossible itself is “I M POSSIBLE”. I assure you will notice a change of vibe.
Power of imagination.
Imagine yourself achieving the tasks you wanted to do, be it big or small. Imagine you getting awarded and appreciated for the same. Trust me imagination has a lot of power. It’s one of the most powerful force that human kind has been gifted with. Imagine how you successful, which car you bought, what are the color of your walls, imagine everything that will go right. So, stop imagining problems, things that can go wrong or conflicts. Imagine positivity, it has immense power.
Work on bettering yourself
There is always a scope of improvement. Keep on working yourself. Read as much as you can, the world is filled with knowledge, no one knows it all. Be a better version of yourself. My sister loves to cook, still she watches different people’s recipe for the same dish for the betterment. I realised with time she learnt a lot of variations in it.
Fake it till you make it.
It may take time for you to build that self confidence. Rome wasn’t built in a day. In the meanwhile, let me tell u my secret. This has been my go-to mantra, whenever I don’t feel confident. I fake it and trust me after that first 2 minutes it syncs in you. Your brain believes in your gimmick and it goes with the flow.
― Mahatma Gandhi
“Man, often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.”